A.S.M.

You broke up with your ex over something.  He/she cheated, hurt you or something else.  Now you want to get back together but whatever it was that broke your trust is now in written in a history book.  How can you bestow your trust again.  Should you bestow trust again?

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I told someone they might try setting up a form of test.  Give the person an opportunity to break the trust again, but where you have a way of monitoring whether they do or not.  But that’s really just a game you are plying with them.  The real trust you bestow shouldn’t be based on the result of a head game. You get what you give and your playing head games will only get them returned to you.

I have a another suggestion for rebuilding solid trust-just do it-bestow the trust.  This advice is based on my firm belief that ‘You always get what you give.’  Another way is to say ‘what goes around comes around’.  Did you REALLY trust him/her before?  That ‘get what you give’ thing means that if you were just pretending to trust him/her and expecting a betrayal, then you got back exactly what you gave.

If you honestly trusted him/her and they still betrayed you, then you might consider moving on to someone you can intrinsically bestow trust in. The Magic of Making Up has more good information on rebuilding a relationship and bestowing trust again. The ‘get what you give’ philosophy is expanded on in ‘the Secret‘ and ‘the Law of Attraction‘.